The Song That Helped One Man Grieve The End Of His Marriage

 When we first launched HuffPost Divorce in 2010, we featured a series called “Divorce Aphorisms of the Day.” 

The series — just like the section itself — was the brainchild of the late Nora Ephron, a woman whose wit and wisdom on the subject of divorce and heartbreak is unparalleled. 

“It crosses our mind that there’s far too much attention paid to aphorisms about falling in love and not nearly enough to those about falling out of love,” Ephron wrote in the introduction. 

She was absolutely right. In homage to Ephron — and because quotes about heartbreak really should be given more due — we’ve relaunched the series with the help of our readers. Was there a saying, quote or mantra that helped you move on during your divorce? We want to hear it! Send the quote and a few sentences about it to divorce@huffingtonpost.com for consideration. 

After 23 years of marriage, Sannan S. struggled to find closure and accept that the relationship really was over. Then one day, an old, familiar song came on and reminded him that life would get better if he just gave it time. 

Below, Sannan, who lives in Montana, shares more about the song that meant so much to him post-split.  

“After two decades of marriage, ours came to an end and I never had closure from my ex-wife about ’why.’ And while that’s hard, I’ve moved on the best I can. We have three kids (almost adults now!) and it has been five years since our divorce. We don’t communicate much and I’m OK with that. My kids are the only thing that are important and me being tuned into how they are doing. 

Early on, when I was really having troubles coping with this huge life change, I heard The Beatles ‘Let It Be’ during a cool-down from an exercise session. I started bawling because for some reason it hit me hard and I didn’t know why. And then later that day I heard it on the radio (I’ve never heard it on my radio station before) and I had to pull over and bawl again.

Then I got it. This was my mantra. Someone trying to tell me something. Ever since then, if I feel any anger welling up or a terse communication occurs with my ex, I just hum that song in my head until it goes away.”

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